I used to think “this is just who I am, I can’t help it…” whenever my dad would yell at me to stop crying. In other words, by the time I started to have the awareness about who Manette was, I was already shaped by my experiences and thought that much of who I was, I had inherited from my mom.
I thought Manette is shy, nerdy, overly sensitive, and quiet. This is just who she is. She puts up with a lot, and never speaks up.
I remember the day I decided that I didn’t want to be like my mom. She had driven me to college in the Berkshires, and was too shy to get out of the car – afraid that she might meet a stranger and have to talk. So I said goodbye to her while she sat behind the wheel of the car saying, “I better get going before it starts to rain.” She wouldn’t look me in the eyes because she was afraid I’d see her crying. I remember wanting one last hug.
I stood there with my backpack and trunk, holding back my tears, while everyone else had family helping them. At that moment, I decided to reinvent myself. I no longer wanted to be shy and over-sensitive.
I decided to come out from behind my books, and out of my head and confront the fear that people would judge me, or that I might make a mistake.
I decided to live through my heart and try smiling.
And that is when I realized that I could change, and that the life I choose to live begins with me, living with intention and excited about the adventure.
And so it is.