funny how it all works out. our little family vacation wasn’t what we had planned, but it probably was one of the best vacations we’ve ever had. having never gone a houseboat before, we had absolutely no idea what to expect.
having no expectations can be a wonderful thing because i never have to feel let down. sometimes people can tell me how much i should read a certain book, that it was the best book ever, and so i set my expectations high, and inevitably am let down. that’s why almost all my favorite movies i entered the theater knowing nothing about.
when i can relax into acceptance of life, people, and places, instead of demanding everyone and everything fulfill my expectations, i find peace. i don’t experience the turmoil that results when i want people to be the way i expect them to be, or the way i dreamt life to be.
when i can let the people in my life create their own expectations, i free them of having to fulfill my expectations of them. the buddhist saying ‘love in such a way the person you love feels free’ is exactly that – freeing the person of your expectations, and allowing them to create their own, and accepting them just the way they are, with no desire to change them. and when i can let go of being attached to my expectations, then i can let go and accept the way life is unfolding and find the joy in what surrounds me.
it really is a beautiful way of living. the mind wants to judge, criticize, control and covet more; the heart simply knows to accept lovingly and to find joy in the moment and there we find the peace.