life is liberating and peaceful when i stop expecting people, places and things to be the way i want them to be

funny how it all works out.  our little family vacation wasn’t what we had planned, but it probably was one of the best vacations we’ve ever had.  having never gone a houseboat before, we had absolutely no idea what to expect.

having no expectations can be a wonderful thing because i never have to feel let down. sometimes people can tell me how much i should read a certain book, that it was the best book ever, and so i set my expectations high, and inevitably am let down. that’s why almost all my favorite movies i entered the theater knowing nothing about.

when i can relax into acceptance of life, people, and places, instead of demanding everyone and everything fulfill my expectations, i find peace. i don’t experience the turmoil that results when i want people to be the way i expect them to be, or the way i dreamt life to be.

when i can let the people in my life create their own expectations, i free them of having to fulfill my expectations of them.  the buddhist saying ‘love in such a way the person you love feels free’ is exactly that – freeing the person of your expectations, and allowing them to create their own, and accepting them just the way they are, with no desire to change them. and when i can let go of being attached to my expectations, then i can let go and accept the way life is unfolding and find the joy in what surrounds me.

it really is a beautiful way of living.  the mind wants to judge, criticize, control and covet more; the heart simply knows to accept lovingly and to find joy in the moment and there we find the peace.

 

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